The Radical Gay Agenda – Rethinking Homosexuality (Part 6)

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On an episode of The Daily Show, Jon Stewart defined “the gay agenda” as…

“Gay marriage, civil rights protection, Fleet Week expanded to Fleet Year, Federal Emergency Management Agency (FEMA) assistance for when it’s raining men, Kathy Griffin to host everything and a nationwide ban on pleated pants.”

After this week I would add one more: to simply be treated with respect by Christians.

Earlier this week on Facebook someone wondered out-loud what my agenda was for doing a blog series on homosexuality. A few people always think I raise these kinds of questions because I like controversy.

Actually, nothing could be farther from the truth. What I like is clarity.

If I had any “agenda” at all it was simply to bring together my friends from various communities I’m a part of (pastor friends, non-Christian friends, CCV attenders, church leaders, etc.) to lend their insights so we could all find a little more clarity on this hot-button issue.

I think what we successfully accomplished this week was bringing to light two central fears:

Fears from evangelical Christians

It’s quite evident that evangelical Christians fear that their fellow Christians will somehow lose their conviction regarding the authority of scripture. This causes them, I think, to overstate their opinions to somehow jar others away from falling down a slippery slope.

Simple things like acknowledging the possibility that people are born gay, or that homosexual “families” can in fact be “families” seem to be major league “make or break” issues, when in my mind they really don’t need to be. As one insightful commenter put it, “Homosexuality is a sin, but the propensity for homosexuality is not.” I wholeheartedly agree.

Fears of evangelical Christians

The other fear that surfaced was the fear from homosexuals regarding evangelical Christians themselves.

I saw this not so much in the blog comments, but in the blitz of emails I received from homosexuals (or dear friends of homosexuals) who, justifiably so, have serious, legitimate fears of Christians.

The stories of name-calling and mistreatment are nothing short of sad. No wonder so many have written off churches as legitimate places to seek God. We Christians need to remind ourselves that it’s God’s kindness that leads us to repentance (Romans 2:4), so while we attempt to lead homosexuals to Christ this should be what they experience from us.

One final thought…

For the homosexuals that read this blog,  there’s a whole bunch of Christians around here that want you to know that you are respected and loved. We’re creeped out just as much by the crazies in the Christian community as you are.

You know that, right?

Series Posts
Rethinking Homosexuality
What If We’re Misinterpreting The Bible? (Part 1)
What Would You Tell A Gay Couple With Kids? (Part 2)
Should An Openly Homosexual Person Be Baptized? (Part 3)
Do Gays Feel Welcome At Your Church? (Part 4)
Are Homosexuals Born That Way? (Part 5)
The Radical Gay Agenda (Part 6)

Brian loves helping Christians live thoughtful, courageous lives. He's a popular blogger, author, and pastor at Christ's Church of the Valley in the suburbs of Philadelphia.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=622370741 Tina Kachmar

    love! totally agree. Replace judgement with compassion. That’s what Jesus Christ would do. Isn’t that who we are trying to emulate anyway? Anger towards homosexuals needs to be replaced by compassion, encouragement, and patience. And then we can show them our Bible and what it says about ALL sin, not just theirs.

  • Tamara Tipton

    I agree as well. It is a sad thing to see so much hate and fear from those who claim to serve the one who triumphed over both. Jesus died for all of us and God sees no distinction of sin. Sin is sin. My sin, your sin, it’s all the same. And frankly your sin (whatever it may be) is none of my business. My business is prayer. I am called to pray and to emulate Christ. Not to judge the lives of others. Great post, thanks for sharing!

    • http://www.BrianJones.com/ Brian Jones

      Well said Tamara. Hope you’re doing well.

  • Baker

    You nailed it! Thanks.

  • Brian Sturtz

    I have come to learn or . . . more accurately . . . learning that 99.9% of the stuff that I do in life is all based on fear. I see this more and more in my life and the lives of others. Why are you frustrated? Why are you angry? Why don’t you do this and instead do that? Why has the argument gone from reasonable to heated crazy? All of it is a fear and the core of that is vulnerability. We don’t want to admit or even
    acknowledge our own shame and pain. Thus keep all those “sinners” far away so
    we don’t have to be vulnerable and confess our hang-ups, baggage, sin and so
    forth. The crazy thing is though – if you are seeking God’s presence – then you
    will most certainly find God’s presence in the darkness. So it is odd in my
    life and in the lives of others that we try so hard to run from fear and keep
    the sinners away, yet it is in walking into that fear where God will be found.

  • Cheryl

    I really appreciate this series on homosexuality. I believe there in the science of homosexuality and I believe that God doesn’t make mistakes. Every person has a purpose. It’s not my place to judge, only to love. Thanks so much, Brian, for showing that not all Christians are homophobic hypocrites.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=714771884 Rob Petersen

    Speak the truth in love. Getting the balance right is so hard for us. But it’s worth the effort, even when doing so will have critics on one side saying that we’re soft on sin, and critics on the other side saying that we’re intolerant haters. The cultural waters we are swimming through (in both the world and the church) are very tricky to navigate. It’s a lot easier to either dismiss practicing homosexuals or embrace homosexual behavior as normative. But it’s a lot more Christ-honoring to accept fellow human beings as the imago dei they are, and to call sin for what it is. In the end, such a stance will not win many popularity contests in either the world or the church as we know it, but it may indeed earn the applause of heaven.

  • http://twitter.com/GregoryGrondin Gregory Grondin

    I’m out and not ashamed of it. I feel it’s the way I am, not a choice — but enough about me.

    I have met some absolutely wonderful Christians. Supportive people who have been both welcoming and supportive. It irritates me to no end when folks generalize the Christian community.

    I’m not a Christian myself, but I refuse to judge a person based on their faith or choices. There are a lot of good people in the world, and I can’t ask others to respect my beliefs if I won’t in turn respect theirs.